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Understanding Your Spouses Spiritual Gift
We must understand our mates spiritual gift in order to experience maximum joy in marriage.
Family Counseling Ministries -
When marriage partners possess a clear understanding of both their spouses spiritual gifts and their own, they can often circumvent marital conflict. A vital step towards finding deeper fulfillment in the marriage relationship involves taking a closer look at the importance of spiritual gifts.
A husband or wife who has been given the gift of prophecy has a high regard for Gods Truth and a deep motivation to warn other people of the consequences of wrong actions. A wife, whose husband has the gift of prophecy, for example, comes to him seeking comfort because her close friend has made an unkind remark. Rather than offer words of consolation, he responds to her need with a seemingly harsh admonition,
Honey, youve walked with the Lord long enough to know that people will always let you down. Its sinful to depend on other people instead of on God.
Her deflated spirit is a strong cue that he has failed in his attempt to encourage her.
Someone with the gift of mercy has a keen sensitivity to the feelings of others and a compelling desire to alleviate emotional pain. A wife tells her downhearted teenage son, who has locked the keys in the family car, Dont be too hard on yourself. Even though its an expensive problem to fix, it could happen to anyone. Her husband, however, interprets her words as being overly soft and lenient. He criticizes her for letting their son off the hook too easily.
When a crisis occurs in the life of a friend or family member, a servant-hearted spouse longs to meet immediate, practical needs. Upon hearing that a friend has lost his job a wife suggests,
Lets take them a meal and clean their house once a week until John finds employment. Maybe that will be some encouragement to them during this difficult time.
An exhorter, on the other hand, wants to discern the reason why the crisis occurred. Could God be teaching our friends patience and humility in the midst of this trial? he might ask. We shouldnt get in Gods way by moving in too fast with our own solutions to the problem.
While attending a Missions Conference at their church, a husband with the motivational gift of giving comments, I was thrilled to hear about all the people this missionary is reaching for Christ. I believe God is prompting our family to financially support his ministry. The wife, however, whose perception is propelled by the gift of teaching replies, That may be so but I dont think his biblical explanation of evangelism was entirely accurate. I also think he used a couple of scriptures out of context.