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When we discipline our children lovingly, consistently and firmly we demonstrate our love for them.
Family Counseling Ministries -
Parents should strive to discipline their children consistently and decisively. The writer of Proverbs 20:6 asks a probing question,
Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man, who can find?
When we discipline our children consistently, firmly and patiently we demonstrate our love for them.
Someone has suggested that disciplining a child inconsistently is often more damaging than not disciplining him or her at all. When we allow a child to get away with a disobedient act, the child will usually try to defy disciplinary boundaries the next time a parent challenges his or her will. Consequently, parents make it harder on themselves when they discipline inconsistently.
We must renew our commitment to God to administer discipline to our children as often as it is necessary to do so. We should take seriously the need to be consistent with them, and ask God for the strength to persevere. When we are tempted to give up, we ought to remember that our childrens spiritual, physical and emotional well-being is at stake.
Parents are never off-duty when their children are misbehaving.
Although we may be busy, frustrated or weary, we must never excuse ourselves from our God-given commission to promptly discipline our children whenever it is necessary. The way in which we administer discipline should reflect the discipline of our heavenly Father.
When we discipline our children, we should first be careful to check our own attitudes. Are we disciplining our children because we are irritated or angry with them? Have they embarrassed us or wounded our pride? If we express these emotions to our children, they will become fearful and resentful of our discipline.
The rod of reproof should not terrorize our children. Instead, they should view it as Gods loving instrument in their parents hands.
We should first take a few minutes to calm down and prayerfully get our emotions under control before we deal with the situation at hand. Gods discipline is always motivated by love. He does not terrorize us or condemn us. Instead, He lovingly restores us. We should seek to represent Gods loving discipline to our errant children.