Parents, take heart. We do have a parents manual for raising our childrenthe Word of God
Family Counseling Ministries -
Many parents come to me for counseling because they cannot
get their children to obey. They have read books on child discipline by the
experts. They have tried time-out, scolding, solitary confinement and
groundingall to no avail.
Each week I see discouraged parents who dont know what to do
to get their children to obey.
Most of them have read Psalm 127:3, which assures them,
Children are a gift of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb
is a reward.
Parents describe their home, however, as a war zone, where the
children are in charge and peace is non-existent. They are discouraged,
frustrated and often defeated. I frequently hear them say they are fed-up
with their kids disobedient and disrespectful attitudes. In a word, they want
Many of these mothers and fathers admit to having
approached their child-rearing years with somewhat of an overconfident
attitude. Most of them had few problems conceiving their children, and then
they made it successfully through the trials of pregnancy. The birth itself may
have been a painful ordeal, but they forgot the pain the moment they first held
their precious baby in their arms.
Doing what comes naturally, does not apply to
parenting. Our thoughts are not Gods thoughts. His ways are higher than our
They assumed that the skill of parenting would come
naturally. After all, they reasoned, what could be so hard about raising
children? Yet, we find in Gods Word, that our natural inclinations are often
opposed to Gods principles of wisdom. The writer of Proverbs 3:5,6 instructs
Do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways
acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.
The words of Proverbs 14:12 further reinforce this truth,
There is a way that seems right to a man, but the end is the
way of destruction.
Given the many child-rearing philosophies that abound
today, there are countless disciplinary measures that are ineffective, even
though they seem right.
God commands show us how to train up our children in a supernatural
Given such clear warnings, parents would do well to search out
the biblical truths pertaining to godly child rearing principles. Every man or
woman who desires to parent successfully must acknowledge the truth that he or
she needs Gods grace in this endeavor, every moment and every step of the way.
God call mothers and fathers to raise their children in a supernatural
way. Parents should know what Gods Word says about child discipline, and they
must ask the Holy Spirit to empower them to carry out this divine assignment in
a manner that honors and pleases the Lord.