Our children must possess godly character in order to impact their world for Jesus Christ.
Family Counseling Ministries -
In the 15th segment of a 15-part series on
family worship, Dr. Don Dunlap encourages parents to enthusiastically teach
their children the importance of godly character. He urges mothers and fathers
to take time during family worship, on a regular basis, to choose one of the
following 49 character qualities and discuss not only the definition and its
opposite, but ways in which family members can demonstrate that quality
throughout the course of the week.
It seems that nearly every day we hear about students
cheating openly in our colleges and universities. Whats more disconcerting is
the fact that many professors look the other way when this occurs. In the
workplace employers often search in vain for employees who demonstrate such
qualities as loyalty, honesty, diligence and thoroughness. Finding someone
qualified to fill vacant job positions seems to be far less difficult than
hiring someone with proven character.
Good character is sorely lacking in every arena of our
society. It is with this fact in mind that we, as parents, must make an all-out
effort to train our sons and daughters to have godly character. The following
is a list of 49 character qualities that appear in the Bible. Each quality is
defined, the opposite of the quality is listed and an accompanying scripture
verse is provided.
It is a good idea to concentrate on one or two of these character
qualities each week, during family worship time. Emphasize the importance of
utilizing every opportunity to demonstrate these particular qualities
throughout the course of the week to one another and to other people we
encounter each day.
Character Qualities with Opposites & Scripture Verses
ALERTNESS vs. Unawareness
Being aware of those things that are taking place around
me so that I can have the right responses to them.
Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation.
The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. Mark 14:38
ATTENTIVENESS vs. Unconcern
Showing the worth of a person by giving undivided
attention to his words and emotions.
For this reason we must pay much closer attention to what
we have heard, lest we drift away from it. Hebrews 2:1
AVAILABILITY vs. Self-centeredness
Making my own schedule and priorities secondary to the
wishes of those whom I am serving.
I have no one else like him, who takes a genuine interest
in your welfare. For everyone looks out for his own interests, not those of
Jesus Christ. Philippians 2:20-21
BOLDNESS vs. Fearfulness
Confidence that what I have to say or do is true, right
and just in the sight of God.
Now, Lord, consider their threats and enable your
servants to speak your word with great boldness. Acts 4:29
CAUTIOUSNESS vs. Rashness
Knowing how important right timing is in accomplishing
It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor to be
hasty and miss the way. Proverbs 19:2
COMPASSION vs. Indifference
Investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts of
If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother
in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? I John 3:17
CONTENTMENT vs. Covetousness
Realizing God has provided everything that I need for my
And if we have food and covering, with these we shall be
content. I Timothy 6:8
CREATIVITY vs. Under-achievement
Approaching a need, a task, or an idea from a new
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world,
but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test
and approve what Gods will isHis good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans
DECISIVENESS vs. Double-mindedness
The ability to finalize difficult decisions based on the
will and ways of God.
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives
generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James
DEFERENCE vs. Rudeness
Limiting my freedom in order not to offend the tastes of
those whom God has called me to serve.
It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do
anything else that will cause your brother to stumble. Romans 14:21
DEPENDABILITY vs. Inconsistency
Fulfilling what I consented to do even if it means
In whose eyes a reprobate is despised, but who honors
those who fear the LORD; He swears to his own hurt, and does not change. Psalm
DETERMINATION vs. Faint-heartedness
Purposing to accomplish Gods goals in Gods time,
regardless of the opposition.
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course,
I have kept the faith. II Timothy 4:7-8
DILIGENCE vs. Slothfulness
Visualizing each task as a special assignment from the
Lord and using all my energies to accomplish it.
Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord
rather than for men. Colossians 3:23
DISCERNMENT vs. Judgment
The God-given ability to understand why things happen.
But the Lord said to Samuel, Do not consider his
appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at
the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord
looks at the heart. I Samuel 16:7
DISCRETION vs. Simple-mindedness
The ability to avoid words, actions, and attitudes which
could result in undesirable consequences.
A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the
simple keep going and suffer for it. Proverbs 22:3
ENDURANCE vs. Giving up
The inward strength to withstand stress to accomplish
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper
time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
ENTHUSIASM vs. Apathy
Expressing with my spirit, the joy of my soul.
Be joyful always;
Do not put out the Spirits fire. I
FAITH vs. Presumption
Visualizing what God intends to do in a given situation
and acting in harmony with it.
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain
of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
FLEXIBILITY vs. Resistance
Not setting my affections on ideas or plans which could be
changed by God or others.
Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.
FORGIVENESS vs. Rejection
Clearing the record of those who have wronged me and
allowing God to love them through me.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each
other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32
GENEROSITY vs. Stinginess
Realizing that all I have belongs to God and using it for
Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap
sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. II
GENTLENESS vs. Harshness
Showing personal care and concern in meeting the needs of
But we proved to be gentle among you, as a nursing mother
tenderly cares for her own children. Thessalonians 2:7
GRATEFULNESS vs. Ungratefulness
Making known to God and others in what ways they have
benefited my life.
For who makes you different from anyone else? What do you
have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as
though you did not? I Corinthians 4:7
HOSPITALITY vs. Loneliness
Cheerfully sharing food, shelter and spiritual refreshment
with the people that God brings into my life.
Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by
this some have entertained angels without knowing it. Hebrews 13:2
HUMILITY vs. Pride
Recognizing that God and others are actually responsible
for the achievements in my life.
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:
God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. James 4:6
INITIATIVE vs. Unresponsiveness
Recognizing and doing what needs to be done before I am
asked to do it.
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
JUSTICE vs. Fairness
Personal responsibility to Gods unchanging laws.
He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the
Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with
your God. Micah 6:8
JOYFULNESS vs. Self-Pity
The spontaneous enthusiasm of my spirit when my soul is in
fellowship with the Lord.
Thou wilt make known to me the path of life; In Thy
presence is fullness of joy; In Thy right hand there are pleasures forever.
LOVE vs. Selfishness
Giving to others basic needs without having personal reward
as my motive.
If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body
to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. I Corinthians 13:3
LOYALTY vs. Unfaithfulness
Using difficult times to demonstrate my commitment to God
and to those whom He has called me to serve.
Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his
life for his friends. John 15:13
MEEKNESS vs. Anger
Yielding my personal rights and expectations to God.
My soul, wait in silence for God only, for my hope is
from Him. Psalm 62:5
OBEDIENCE vs. Willfulness
Freedom to be creative under the protection of divinely
We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing
raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive
to the obedience of Christ. II Corinthians 10:5
ORDERLINESS vs. Disorganization
Preparing myself and my surroundings so that I will
achieve the greatest efficiency.
But let all things be done properly and in an orderly
manner. I Corinthians 14:40
PATIENCE vs. Restlessness
Accepting a difficult situation from God without giving
Him a deadline to remove it.
Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings,
because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character;
and character, hope. Romans 5:3-4
PERSUASIVENESS vs. Contentiousness
Guiding vital truths around another persons mental
And the Lords servant must not quarrel; instead, he must
be kind to everyone, able to teach, not
resentful. II Timothy 2:24
PUNCTUALITY vs. Tardiness
Showing high esteem for other people and for their time.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every
activity under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1
RESOURCEFULNESS vs. Wastefulness
Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or
Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be
trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be
dishonest with much. Luke 16:10
RESPONSIBILITY vs. Unreliability
Knowing and doing what both God and others are expecting
So then, each of us will give an account of himself to
God. Romans 14:12
REVERENCE vs. Disrespect
Awareness of how God is working through the people and
events in my life to produce the character of Christ in me.
Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous
for the fear of the Lord. There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope
will not be cut off. Proverbs 23:17-18
SECURITY vs. Anxiety
Structuring my life around that which is eternal and
cannot be destroyed or taken away.
Do not work for food that spoils, but for food that
endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you. John 6:27
SELF-CONTROL vs. Self indulgence
Instant obedience to the initial promptings of Gods
Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the
sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let
us keep in step with the Spirit. Galatians 5:24-25
SENSITIVITY vs. Callousness
Exercising my senses so that I can perceive the true
spirit and emotions of those people around me.
Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who
mourn. Romans 12:15
SINCERITY vs. Hypocrisy
Eagerness to do what is right with transparent motives.
Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the
truth so that you have sincere love for your brother, love one another deeply,
from the heart. I Peter 1:22
THOROUGHNESS vs. Incompleteness
Knowing what factors will diminish the effectiveness of my
work or words if I neglect them.
The mind of the prudent acquires knowledge, and the ear
of the wise seeks knowledge. Proverbs 18:15
THRIFTINESS vs. Extravagance
Not letting myself or other people spend that which is not
So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly
wealth, who will trust you with true riches? Luke 16:11
TOLERANCE vs. Prejudice
Acceptance of other people as unique expressions of
specific character qualities, in varying degrees of maturity.
Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having
the same love, being one in spirit and purpose. Philippians 2:2
TRUTHFULNESS vs. Deception
Earning future trust by accurately reporting past facts.
Therefore, each of you must put off falsehood and speak
truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. Ephesians 4:25
VIRTUE vs. Impurity
The moral excellence and purity of spirit that radiate
from my life as I obey Gods Word.
For this very reason, make every effort to add to your
faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; II Peter 1:5
WISDOM vs. Natural Inclinations
Seeing and responding to life situations from Gods frame
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, the
knowledge of the holy One is understanding. Proverbs 10:9