Have you thought about whether your home is a place of entertainment or an educational center?
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Is your home filled with equipment intended for
entertainment and leisure? If so, perhaps it would be worth reconsidering your
goals and vision for how you want to lead your family in spiritual growth. In
the 4th segment of a 20-article series on family devotions, Dr. Don
Dunlap encourages parents to examine their motivation quotient as it relates to
regularly leading their children in family worship.
When my wife and I visited some casual Christian friends a
few months ago, our host and hostess invited us to tour their beautiful home.
We were amazed to see televisions and VCRs in every bedroom, and Playstation
game systems in each of the childrens rooms. As Neanderthal as it must sound,
we have actually managed to raise ten children with no TV or video games in our
household at all. Whats even more amazing is that all of our children are
generally perceived to be well-adjusted individuals and they seem to possess
fairly acceptable social skills.
Gods Word stands on its own merit. We do not have to use
gimmicks to lure our children to family worship.
Early in our marriage a godly man and leader, Dr. Howard
Hendricks, challenged us to make our home an educational centernot an
entertainment mecca. He explained that God wants our homes to be ministry
centers, where children catch a contagious love for Jesus Christ from their
parentsparents who enthusiastically model the role of servanthood and
obedience before their sons and daughters.
Must we entertain our children?
Rather than entertain our children, we decided we would
seek to lovingly train them to be servants for Gods glory. We were aware of
how television robs us of precious hours and how it serves up a steady diet of
unbiblical, worldly philosophies. We determined that by Gods grace, we would
use the few short years that our children were entrusted into our care, to
invest Gods Word in them as creatively and as aggressively as we possibly
could. We purposed to guard their tender hearts and impressionable minds from
the influences that bombard us through the media.
Many parents tell me that they simply are not motivated to
train their children in this way. They claim that it is much easier to let
television, for example, baby-sit their children at the end of a long, hard
day. I ask them to prayerfully consider the fact that a lack of motivation to
train our children is directly related to our own spiritual lukewarmness.
We cant lead someone to a place where we have not gone. Any
Christian parent that is dealing with low motivation should cry out to the
Lord. He or she should ask God to ignite a fire of godly love and devotion in
his or her hearta fire that will, by Gods grace, spread to each family
Family members are quick to detect a lack of spiritual
genuineness and authenticity.
Often parents face the obstacle of a credibility problem
with their families. Because they have not lived a consistent Christian life
before them, their family members wont listen to them and they do not respect
their testimonies. Or some parents may feel like hypocrites trying to lead
their families along a path that they themselves are not walking.
Mothers and fathers who find themselves in this situation
must humble themselves before God, their spouses and their children and admit
their inadequacies. They should ask forgiveness for their disobedience to God,
in failing to provide a worthy example of Christ-like leadership. They will
then be in a position to establish a meaningful family worship routine.
Dunlap, a pioneer in the placement of Pastoral Counselors in the offices of
Christian physicians, has conducted over twenty thousand appointments during
his ministerial career. His counseling practice includes adults, children and
families in crisis. Dr. Dunlap is committed to facilitating a network of
telephone counselors. His goal is to provide help for the many people unable to
meet face to face with a competent Bible-based counselor. For a complete
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